Surrogacy and What Factors to Consider
Have you experienced the joy of childbirth?
If you could not have that, then with Surrogacy you certainly have the chance to become a parent.
Surrogacy has emerged as a boon for the couples who could not experience the ecstasy of having a baby of their own.
A surrogate mother stands to be the epitome of kindness and benevolence and she turns the life of the couple into a bliss whom she hands over a child.
So, if you are also considering this option, you have to consider a few factors which you have to look in your surrogate mother.
First consider, what kind of surrogacy you want to go for:
Traditional Surrogacy where, you will be the genetic mother of the child. Here, your egg is fertilized using the sperm from the intended father or a donor. This is done through artificial insemination and you would be carrying your own baby.
While in Gestational Surrogacy, the embryo if formed by the means of fertilization of egg from the intended mother or a donor and sperm from the intended father or a donor. This embryo is then put in you, hence you are not biologically related to the baby.
Now, when you have decided which way should be apt for you, you have to choose a surrogate carrier for the baby. You need to be extra cautious while making this choice, because it obviously affects a lot of things.
The first set of advices says:
Consider surrogate carrier over the age of 21 who has already given birth to a baby.
Consider all the potential surrogates you are offered to check on and then shortlist a few and have a background check of them.
Screening of the surrogate mother
Screen the surrogate not only on the basis of medical and physical conditions but also on the basis of what kind of person she is. This step is important if you want your surrogate to remain an integral part of your child and want to stay in a lifelong relationship with her.
Medical screening of the surrogate:
The surrogate’s medical history—this should include a genetic profile (traditional surrogates only), blood tests and obstetric history.
The surrogate’s lifestyle choices including their history of drinking and substance abuse.
A clear bill of health and certification that she can sustain a healthy pregnancy
Results from infectious disease screenings and other blood tests
Have guidance to walk you down the way easily:
This is a complicated process and you will need a lot of guidance in the way. This includes services of a surrogacy agency a legal attorney and a therapist or counsellor to help your surrogate go through it without much pain on emotional level.
Once you have made your choice, clearly discuss following things with your surrogate:
The price that she would be compensated at.
How much would you be intervening after pregnancy and post-delivery in her life?
Would she like to stay connected with the baby or leave once and for all?
These things are really important and should be stamped down to avoid any sort of complications.